CHAPTER VII: WHEN SHOULD A WOMAN AVOID HAVING CHILDREN?
ARE overburdened mothers justified in their appeals for contraceptives or abortions?
What shall we say to women who write such letters as those published in the preceding
chapter? Will anyone, after reading those letters, dare to say to these women that they
should go on bringing helpless children into the world to share their increasing misery?
The women who thus cry for aid are the victims of ignorance. Awakening from that ignorance,
they are demanding relief. Had they been permitted a knowledge of their sex functions,
had they had some guiding principle of motherhood, those who at this late day are asking
for contraceptives would have swept aside all barriers and procured them long ago. Those
who are appealing for abortions would never have been in such a situation.
To say to these women that they should continue their helpless breeding of the helpless
is stupid brutality. The facts set forth earlier in this book, and the cries of tortured
motherhood which echo through the letters just referred to, are more than ample evidence
that there are times when it is woman's highest duty to refuse to bear children.
There has seemed to be a great deal of disagreement among the medical authorities
who have attempted to say when a woman should not have children. This disagreement has
been rendered even more confusing by a babel of voices from the ranks of sociologists.
Within the past few years, however, so much light has been shed upon the subject that
it is now comparatively easy for the student to separate the well-founded conclusions
from those which are of doubtful value, or plainly worthless. The opinions which I summarize
here are not so much my own, originally, as those of medical authorities who have made
deep and careful investigations. There is, however, nothing set forth here which I have
not in my own studies tested and proved correct. In addition to carrying the weight of
the best medical authority, a fact easily confirmed by the first specialist you meet,
they are further reinforced by the findings of the federal Children's Bureau, and other
organizations which have examined infant mortality and compiled rates.
To the woman who wishes to have children, we must give these answers to the question
when not to have them.
Childbearing should be avoided within two or three years after the birth of the last
child. Common sense and science unite in pointing out that the mother requires at least
this much time to regain her strength and replenish her system in order to give another
baby proper nourishment after its birth. Authorities are insistent upon their warnings
that too frequent childbearing wrecks the woman's health. Weakness of the reproductive
organs and pelvic ailments almost certainly result if a woman bears children too frequently.
By all means there should be no children when either mother or father suffers from
such diseases as tuberculosis, gonorrhea, syphilis, cancer, epilepsy, insanity, drunkenness
and mental disorders. In the case of the mother, heart disease, kidney trouble and pelvic
deformities are also a serious bar to childbearing. Thousands of volumes have been written
by physicians upon the danger to mothers and offspring of having children when one or
both parents are suffering from the diseases mentioned above. As authorities have pointed
out in all these books, the jails,
hospitals for the insane, poorhouses and houses of prostitution are filled with the
children born of such parents, while an astounding number of their children are either
stillborn or die in infancy.
These facts are now so well known that they would need little discussion here, even
if space permitted. Miscarriages, which are particularly frequent in cases of syphilis
and pelvic deformities, are a great source of danger to the health and even to the life
of the mother. Where either parent suffers from gonorrhea, the child is in danger of
being born blind. Tuberculosis in the parent leaves the child's system in such condition
that it is likely to suffer from the disease. Childbearing is also a grave danger to
the tubercular mother. A tendency to insanity, if not insanity itself, may be transmitted
to the child, or it may be feebleminded if one of the parents is insane or suffers from
any mental disorder. Drunkenness in the parent or parents has been found to be the cause
of feeblemindedness in the offspring and to leave the child with a constitution too weak
to resist disease as it should.
No more children should be born when the parents, though healthy themselves, find
that their children are physically or mentally defective. No matter how much they desire
children, no man and woman have a right to bring into the world those who are to suffer
from mental or physical affliction. It condemns the child to a life of misery and places
upon the community the burden of caring for it, probably for its defective descendants
for many generations.
Generally speaking, no woman should bear a child before she is twenty-two years old.
It is better still that she wait until she is twenty-five. High infant mortality rates
for mothers under twenty two attest this fact. It is highly desirable from the mother's
standpoint to postpone childbearing until she has attained a ripe physical and mental
development, as the bearing and nursing of infants interferes with such development.
It is also all important to the child, the offspring of a woman who is twenty-five or
somewhat older has the best chance of good physical and mental equipment.
In brief, a woman should avoid having children unless both she and the father are
in such physical and mental condition as to assure the child a healthy physical and mental
being. This is the answer that must be made to women whose children are fairly sure of
good care, sufficient food, adequate clothing, a fit place to live and at least a fair
A distinctly different and exceedingly important side of the problem must be considered
when the women workers, the wives and the mothers of workers, wish to know when to avoid
having children. Such a woman must answer her own question. What anyone else may tell
her is far less important than what she herself shall reply to a society that demands
more and more children and which gives them less and less when they arrive.
What shall this woman say to a society that would make of her body a reproductive
machine only to waste prodigally the fruit of her being? Does society value her offspring?
Does it not let them die by the hundreds of thousands of want, hunger and preventable
disease? Does it not drive them to the factories, the mills, the mines and the stores
to be stunted physically and mentally? Does it not throw them into the labor market to
be competitors with her and their father? Do we not find the children of the South filling
the mills, working side by side with their mothers, while the fathers remain at home?
Do we not find the father, mother and child competing with one another for their daily
bread? Does society not herd them in slums? Does it not drive the girls to prostitution
and the boys to crime? Does it educate them for free-spirited manhood and womanhood?
Does it even give them during their babyhood fit places to live in, fit clothes to wear,
fit food to eat, or a clean place to play? Does it even permit the mother to give them
a mother's care?
The woman of the workers knows what society does with her offspring. Knowing the bitter
truth, learned in unspeakable anguish, what shall this woman say to society? The power
is in her hands. She can bring forth more children to perpetuate these conditions, or
she can withhold the human grist from these cruel mills which grind only disaster.
Shall she say to society that she will go on multiplying the misery that she herself
has endured? Shall she go on breeding children who can only suffer and die? Rather, shall
she not say that until society puts a higher value upon motherhood she will not be a
mother? Shall she not sacrifice her mother instincts for the common good and say that
until children are held as something better than commodities upon the labor market, she
will bear no more? Shall she not give up her desire for even a small family, and say
to society that until the world is made fit for children to live in, she will have no
children at all?
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